tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952737927412275300.post981475281252688704..comments2023-12-21T01:52:19.090-05:00Comments on The Journey: IVF? Fostering? Adoption?Sunshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04243410664330461424noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952737927412275300.post-27265140423225267392011-01-31T13:08:41.750-05:002011-01-31T13:08:41.750-05:00Thank you all so much for your comments. Jodi, I ...Thank you all so much for your comments. Jodi, I emailed you, babe. Lissa, I totally agree with you, kid! Love your advice! Kinda along the same lines I was thinking. But, at this point, I just can't take just making a difference in a child's life. I work with adolescents, volunteered with preschoolers, try to influence my nieces and nephews, but the kind of impact I want to have on children is so much greater than a couple of hours here and there. I want to be a mom who can influence her child to better the world, not just make life better for themselves. You know what I mean? Anyway, hopefully all this speculating about what would I do if I don't get pregnant these next two months is a non issue. Thank you all for your support. And to you too, Brandi. I appreciate you!Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04243410664330461424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952737927412275300.post-1313439958961508622011-01-30T08:03:11.363-05:002011-01-30T08:03:11.363-05:00Sunshine, I wish I could help you make that decisi...Sunshine, I wish I could help you make that decision easier, but it's a tough one. Personally I know I would try the hybrids first to make sure you've completely exhausted that avenue. Being with the money situation, it appears adoption and IVF are relatively about the same price, so on that note, if it were between those two, if you wanted to try for your own biological child first, then I'd do 1 round of IVF and if it doesn't work, move on....that way you at least know you gave it a shot. I have totally thought about adoption as an option, because I got to thinking that really I wanted to make a difference in a child's life and be a mommy and you can achieve both of those in that aspect. I myself don't think I could foster, only because I would be petrified to get attached and have them taken back away from me. However, in the meantime you would still be a huge part of making a difference in a child's life, even if for a short time. This is a tough choice and it all depends what works out best for your needs/wants on both of you becoming parents. I hope and pray this decision is made easier for you both. All you are trying to be is God-loving parents to children that you so badly desire, so I hope that one way or another this wish/dream comes true for you.....soon!! I love you friend!! I am praying as always for you both and can't wait to hear whatever decision you make and what your future holds!! :)BBMB 2011https://www.blogger.com/profile/00512427443507478499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952737927412275300.post-59174625412485024442011-01-27T18:16:13.412-05:002011-01-27T18:16:13.412-05:00I can not say I know how you feel since I have not...I can not say I know how you feel since I have not gone through the loss that you have. But I can sympathize with you as I too know how devastating facing this is. I have always wanted to be a mother and thought it would come with time, but alas here we are years later and still no children. I found out today that I have PCOS and its devastating. I thought having a diagnosis would help but, honestly I feel the same as I did not knowing. I know that no one can make the decision for you but I really do understand about having these options and not knowing what to do. We are trying clomid to see if it will jump start me to ovulate, I am also going to start taking metformin. We are taking it a month at a time since nothing is covered by insurance. Our plan for now is to try the met/clomid, then do IUI which is $1500 a try. Luckily we have been saving and are both working. But if that doesnt work than we will be in the same position. I would like to try IVF but, with the cost and success rates its a big risk without a promise at the end. I will be praying for you that whatever the lords plan is for you it will bring you the peace that you so desire. I know that you and Shaun are going to be great parents. I am so glad that you have decided to share your journey with me. It makes me feel like there is someone out there who understands what I am going through. Praying for you.Jodinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8952737927412275300.post-25360204796802713112011-01-27T15:26:05.397-05:002011-01-27T15:26:05.397-05:00A family friend went several years of trying and t...A family friend went several years of trying and they were going to adopt and lost a lot of money through the agency and such. She is 44, and they did IVF and the first time worked. They have a very healthy 7 month old little boy now. What ever you decide to do, you will have tons of prayers and support. I can not say I understand how it feels to be in your shoes, as I do not. But I can say that I am continuing to pray for you and I will always be praying for you Sunshine! You are an amazingly strong woman and you are such an inspiration!Brandinoreply@blogger.com